Moving On in Healthy Way

Moving on is a personal journey. You dont need to compare how far you have moved on with how far your ex did, comparison kills your happiness. Comparison in moving on shows that you are still bounded by somebody in the past and also the whole stories that happened.

There are some kinds of comparison that dont look like comparison but actually it is comparison. If you try to get somebody new out of their superiority (instead of true feeling) that is you think higher than your ex, you are in comparison. If you try to find out what and who their new lovers are, you are in comparison. If you feel insecure about them being with someone new you might be either controlled by your ego or in the state of comparing.

Comparison shows that you let yourself to be controlled, you are not yourself, you dont do what you want to do, comparison shows your confidence is broken. Trying to act cool in front of your ex, like you less appreciate them-while you should appreciate them as a friend or a person-doesn’t show that you are cool and high, it shows you are insecure about your own self-value and most of all shows that you are not moved on yet.

I am sorry for telling the truth, but it is human nature but that doesn’t mean we can handle it, you gotta spend a lot of time alone and sharing with your own soul, asking humble self-questions, without fear of judgement. Moving on comes along with shame somehow. And people try so hard to hide their shames, but they dont know hiding shame is only grow shame itself to become even bigger.

I last night wathced a video of researcher named Brene Brown, an expert of shame, perfectionism, vulnerability, and she said
“Shame grows through, silence, secrecy and judgement…To overcome shame, you should talk to yourself like you talk to someone you love, reach out somebody you trust, and tell your story…shame can not survive being spoken and being met with empathy”

So now, stop comparing, love yourself, reach out somebody trustworthy with empathy, tell your story, kill your shame, and move on healthy.

Ps: Play hero instead of playing victim because when you play as victim you cant put yourself in a vision of a winner, and build the life you dreamed about.

RR/ 02-09-14
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Chilling out at my boarding house. Hello 🍃🌴💃😁
Taken by: Kurniawan 
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Chilling out at my boarding house. Hello 🍃🌴💃😁
Taken by: Kurniawan
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All whole life, stay with me.
Peace and calm, I will bring you
Day and night, I will hug you
Bright and dark, I stand by you
Together and apart, I love you

RR/ Aug 2014
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All whole life, stay with me.
Peace and calm, I will bring you
Day and night, I will hug you
Bright and dark, I stand by you
Together and apart, I love you

RR/ Aug 2014
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In solitude, i can refine my own perception about my self. I can hear my pristine soul tells me again about my worthyness, about my value, about the endless blessings i get, about the bad things that surely will turn out to be amazing things. In solitude i can hear my soul clearly sings the song that i can relate the most. I feel so safe in solitude, connected with the soul completely without having anybody to interrupt and impact my mind.

I thought it was bad to be somebody who loves to be alone but then knowing that solitude is the thing that people i adore love the most too-Plato, Maya Angelou, Paulo Coelho, Andrei Takovsky, Aldos Huxley even Audrey Hepburn-makes me understand that to be alone is not something i should judge badly about myself.

That doesn’t make you antisocial or cause you to reject the rest of the world. But you need to breathe….-Andrei Takovsky

But I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.-Olivia Wilde

RR/ 31-08-14
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In solitude, i can refine my own perception about my self. I can hear my pristine soul tells me again about my worthyness, about my value, about the endless blessings i get, about the bad things that surely will turn out to be amazing things. In solitude i can hear my soul clearly sings the song that i can relate the most. I feel so safe in solitude, connected with the soul completely without having anybody to interrupt and impact my mind.

I thought it was bad to be somebody who loves to be alone but then knowing that solitude is the thing that people i adore love the most too-Plato, Maya Angelou, Paulo Coelho, Andrei Takovsky, Aldos Huxley even Audrey Hepburn-makes me understand that to be alone is not something i should judge badly about myself.

That doesn’t make you antisocial or cause you to reject the rest of the world. But you need to breathe….-Andrei Takovsky

But I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.-Olivia Wilde

RR/ 31-08-14
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Pray for Peace Despite The Differences

I think now we live in era where when we step out of our houses we will meet so many people with so many different ways of thinking. Something we might think is truly right, can turn out to be dead wrong for others.

If it happens at the level of daily basis of life it will be fine. But this middle-east war thing has been running around my mind lately, I thought people were sticking up for Palestina, I meant they were, but I didn’t think I would know someone who are not.

Who he is, is not something crucial to tell, but reading his post about GAZA and his opinion toward it just hit me to the face. Once again what he said is not something crucial to tell, but the point is I realized that differences were so much more real (or real-er) that I had thought they were in my whole entire life.

In the end of the day, although now I’m aware that what’s happening at this time there, is because differences, and life, human beings and differences are inseparable, I still would love to admit there’s a big part of myself thinks that all I want for this world is peace.

And for that I’m inviting everyone who reads this and has the same wish as mine to pray, pray for kindness, pray for compassion, pray for peace, pray for the serenity in prayers, pray for humility, pray until we can’t pray anymore…

RR

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Be a rainbow in somebody else’s clouds
-MayaAngelou-
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Be a rainbow in somebody else’s clouds
-MayaAngelou-
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Can your hear the feeling in my pretending voice, the nervousness that i hide, the stare that i steal when you’re not looking, …the love that somehow….burns inside
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Bisakah kau mendengar perasaan dalam suara pura-puraku, kegelisahan yang ku sembunyikan, tatapan yang kucuri saat kau tidak melihat, …cinta yang entah bagaimana…..membakar di dalam.

RR/ July 2014
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Can your hear the feeling in my pretending voice, the nervousness that i hide, the stare that i steal when you’re not looking, …the love that somehow….burns inside
—————-
Bisakah kau mendengar perasaan dalam suara pura-puraku, kegelisahan yang ku sembunyikan, tatapan yang kucuri saat kau tidak melihat, …cinta yang entah bagaimana…..membakar di dalam.

RR/ July 2014
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Every warrior of the light has doubted that he is warrior of the light.
-Paulo Coelho-
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Every warrior of the light has doubted that he is warrior of the light.
-Paulo Coelho-
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In this chaotic world 
I choose to be yours 
In this freezing life I choose to be with you 
Because the connection between you and i, 
through dimensions and times, 
set my soul in the frequency of love 
And love keeps me alive Safe and sound

RR/ 2014
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In this chaotic world 
I choose to be yours 
In this freezing life I choose to be with you 
Because the connection between you and i, 
through dimensions and times, 
set my soul in the frequency of love 
And love keeps me alive Safe and sound

RR/ 2014
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Throwback August 2012:
Street Newbie
Photo: Taufiq Romo Jr

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Throwback August 2012:
Street Newbie
Photo: Taufiq Romo Jr

#pastel #shot #composite #portpholio #compcard #throwback #2012 #august #model #malemodel #jeans #makeup #hair #hairstyle #fashion #mensfashion #mensstyle #face #angry #mad #bad #fashionmen #highfashion #work #art #creative

For every meeting comes along with parting, either it’s temporary or permanent parting, never take any togetherness and moment for granted, live the moment to the fullest, do our best, connect to our soul, don’t confuse ego with logic if there are some bad times happen, be sincere, we might not see them anymore, listen to their stories, validate their presences, lift their moods and spirits, look into their eyes when having conversation, so when we are apart in between of will or will not meet again, we can pray for their lives with smile in our faces, and hope and peace in our hearts.

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For every meeting comes along with parting, either it’s temporary or permanent parting, never take any togetherness and moment for granted, live the moment to the fullest, do our best, connect to our soul, don’t confuse ego with logic if there are some bad times happen, be sincere, we might not see them anymore, listen to their stories, validate their presences, lift their moods and spirits, look into their eyes when having conversation, so when we are apart in between of will or will not meet again, we can pray for their lives with smile in our faces, and hope and peace in our hearts.

#photograph #mobilephoto #mobilephotography #sky #skyporn #night #evening #silent #peace #relax #beautiful #view #nature #panorama #words #message #life #thought #contemplation #think #thinking #blue #quote #quotes

The distance between you and me still has one sun, one moon, one sky, connected oceans, and of course one longing to share our love.

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Jarak antara kau dan aku masih memiliki satu matahari, satu bulan, satu langit, laut-laut yang terhubung, dan tentu saja satu kerinduan untuk berbagi kasih.

Like the line of soft lights in the darkness, i want to hold your hand with tenderness.

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Seperti jejeran cahaya temaram dalam kegelapan, aku ingin menggenggam tanganmu dengan kelembutan

If You Feel Down, Come Talk To Me

In the end of the day we are human being, we live the life when we feel unworthy sometimes, and the dreams seem to likely stay as dreams. It’s the time when we need to reflect and lookback to see how far we’ve walked the journey, how much we’ve learned, and how blessed we all have been. So we can be reminded again that we still have faith, desire and power to keep on going.

And also we will need somebody to share, it can be a friend, lover, brother, sister, mother or father, anyone who can see our potentials through our flaws, somebody who says “yes, you can!” When we think we can’t. Somebody who’s willing to see our souls before they judge.

If anyone out there, is feeling down, or being hopeless and you have no one to talk to, come talk to me i will listen.

Kalau ada-siapapun-yang merasa sedih, putus asa dan tidak memiliki kawan cerita, cerita ke saya, saya akan mendengarkan.